By Dr. Gary Chapman
Read each pair of statements and circle the one that best describes you.
A. I like to receive notes of affirmation from you.
E. I like it when you hug me.
B. I like to spend one‐on‐one time with you.
D. I feel loved when you give me practical help.
C. I like it when you give me gifts.
B. I like taking long walks with you.
D. I feel loved when you do things to help me.
E. I feel loved when you hug or touch me.
E. I feel loved when you hold me in your arms.
C. I feel loved when I receive a gift from you.
B. I like to go places with you.
E. I like to hold hands with you.
A. I feel loved when you acknowledge me.
C. Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me.
E. I like to sit close to you.
A. I like it when you tell me that I am attractive.
B. I like to spend time with you.
C. I like to receive little gifts from you.
D. I know you love me when you help me.
A. Your words of acceptance are important to me.
B. I like to be together when we do things.
A. I like the kind words you say to me.
E. I feel whole when we hug.
D. What you do affects me more than what you say.
A. I value your praise and try to avoid your criticism.
C. Several inexpensive gifts mean more to me than one large expensive gift.
E. I feel closer to you when you touch me.
B. I feel close when we are talking or doing something together.
A. I like you to compliment my achievements.
D. I know you love me when you do things for me that you don’t enjoy doing.
E. I like for you to touch me when you walk by.
B. I like when you listen to me sympathetically.
C. I really enjoy receiving gifts from you.
D. I feel loved when you help me with my home projects.
A. I like when you compliment my appearance.
B. I feel loved when you take the time to understand my feelings.
E. I feel secure when you are touching me.
D. Your acts of service make me feel loved.
D. I appreciate the many things you do for me.
C. I like receiving gifts that you make.
B. I really enjoy the feeling I get when you give me your undivided attention.
D. I really enjoy the feeling I get when you do some act of service for me.
C. I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with a gift.
A. I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with meaningful words (written or spoken.)
D. I feel loved when you help me out with my chores.
C. I know you are thinking of me when you give me a gift.
C. I appreciate it when you remember special days with a gift.
B. I appreciate it when you listen patiently and don’t interrupt me.
B. I enjoy extended trips with you.
D. I like to know that you are concerned enough to help me with my daily task.
E. Kissing me unexpectedly makes me feel loved.
C. Giving me a gift for no occasion makes me feel loved.
A. I like to be told that you appreciate me.
B. I like for you to look at me when we are talking.
C. Your gifts are always special to me.
E. I feel loved when you kiss me.
A. I feel loved when you tell me how much you appreciate me.
D. I feel loved when you enthusiastically do a task I have requested.
E. I need to be hugged by you every day.
A. I need your words of affirmation daily.
Add Total Number of Answers Here:
A. ____ Words of Affirmation
B. ____ Quality Time
C. ____Receiving Gifts
D. ____ Acts of Service
E. ____Physical Touch