She had TOO MUCH time on her hands and it landed her in Hollywood

After years of striving professionally, she left a high-powered career she excelled at to take a break and focus on being a wife. “I wanted to drop into really taking care of my husband and my marriage. We were both working so much and I was hardly ever home to enjoy this stunning home he built for us. I took a break to focus on us and figure out my next chapter.”

She focused all her creative energy on making them a fantastic home and upgrading life on every level. And for the first year or so, it was invigorating. They both reveled in the ease her singular focus created in their life together. 

It was magic…until it wasn’t. 

Eventually she had their excellence on auto-pilot and her strategic thinking wasn’t needed anymore. For most of my clients, this is where life starts to go off the rails. It shows up as various symptoms:

🛍 shopping (over-spending)

📱 social media (comparing & illusions of insufficiency)

💔 sex (infidelity)

❌ stagnation (the downward spiral of inaction, second guessing and self-doubt)

In the months and years of her “freedom” she created a prison of overthinking every life choice she had ever made. She entertained herself with indecision and concocting scenarios that would threaten her marriage. She got good at focusing on all the things her husband WASN’T and convinced herself she had become the orbit of their marriage. If she began working again it would all fall apart, she concluded. Every time she got a job offer, she backed off as a gesture not to upset the apple cart. 

When I spoke to her husband about this, he said “Kelly, look. I don’t need a wife. If she’s at yoga when I wake up in the morning, you know how long it takes me to get out the door every morning? Twenty five minutes instead of 15. Ten extra minutes. That’s it! What good is having a wife if she’s dead inside? So, no, I don’t need her here to be a wife. I need HER- lit up again.”

He had been telling her that for YEARS, but when she heard it on our call together, she truly heard it for the first time. 

And now, our girl is finally off on a six month adventure that will put her smack in the center of Hollywood on a hit series surrounded by the movers and shakers. Most importantly, she’ll be fully immersed in her talents and juicing up her brain again. 

And when she gets back, with an amplified soul and a pulsing network, her possibilities only multiply. Go get ‘em, girl! 

We’re behind you all the way!!

The Entrepreneur and Successful Vacationing…

It’s vacation season!  

Tickets are booked, shopping is done, and bags are packed! So much planning and prep has gone into this- the only thing left to do is have fun, make memories, and reconnect with loved ones. 

You finally get to your destination and everything is accounted for. Except for your partner’s head; it’s back at the office- again. 

For most entrepreneurial couples, this is a common point of contention. 

“Just once! We just wanted your undivided attention for just one week!”

Trouble in paradise. 

Below are a few helpful tips to ensure everyone maximizes the power of family vacation:

1) SHARE EXPECTATIONS 

‘Trep: Honey, I have three business calls I need to take while we’re away. They’re scheduled at these times…

Partner: Babe, there are a few times this week we’ll need your undivided attention for scheduled activities. Can you please make sure you’ve planned accordingly to have your phone off during these times?

2) DON’T ASSIGN MEANING TO UNEXPECTED CALLS

‘Trep: avoid the impulse to defend taking a call with “you never appreciate how much I have to work to make all this possible”.

Partner: avoid using this as another opportunity to prove that the business is clearly more important than family.

Let it be what it is. A call. After the call, a kind gesture from each of you will unhinge the other from the impending battle positions you may have both assumed. 

3) FILTER

‘Trep: is it really necessary that you engage in work while away? Or do you just enjoy being needed/engaged/ challenged? A total disconnect provides exponential value in your business and your personal life. Don’t underestimate the power of letting your team handle it- everyone will thank you. 

Partner: is it totally crucial that no work activity takes place? Or do you just feel a little lost when they they get caught up in work? Taking advantage of some personal time while on vacay gives you an equal opportunity for a total disconnect- and what’s that worth?!??